Wednesday, May 9, 2012

Beauty from Ashes II (Or Things I Have Gained)

This is a cross-post from my other blog, I wanted to share it here as an encouragement.  You can read about my losses I am grieving as well.

This wasn't exactly included in the rebuilding after deconstructing series (although finding what remains is pretty similar), but my husband and I, while making the losses list thought this would be beneficial for me.

So here is my list of Beauty from Ashes (or things I have gained):

I have gained an "underground railroad" of sorts...people who have been or are on this journey who understand me and are safe.

I have gained respect for other theological viewpoints.

I have realized that we are all wanderers, and that nobody knows all the answers.

I have gained confidence in my ability to discern the guiding of the Holy Spirit just as well as any leader, elder or pastor.

I have gained compassion for those that consider themselves outsiders and unaccepted by the church.

I have gained new perspective on political and social issues, such as women's issues, gay rights...and that Christian does not = Republican.

I have gained a purpose, perhaps a calling to help people who have been spiritually abused.

I have gained friendships with people whom I may not have become friends with (and would have previously judged)...and my life is richer for it.

I have gained respect for my own opinion and feelings, even if someone whom I want to validate them, won't.

I like myself so, so much more now.

I have realized that being a part of Christian Culture is much, much different than following Jesus....and I have chosen the latter, whatever that may look like and whatever it may cost.

I have gained unity in my marriage and the connection of having a shared viewpoint and experience.

I have gained the conviction that women should be free to use their spiritual gifts and be treated EQUALLY in the church...even if lots of people don't agree.

I have gained the empowerment to teach my daughter that she can do anything, and that God is not limiting her simply because she is female.

What beauty have you pulled from the ashes?  What have you gained?


  1. That is helpful to me though I didn't get burnt by Mars Hill; I got burnt in similar ways in other situations and subcultures...thanks for sharing. It's good to know I'm not alone and there is healing and growth though both take time.

  2. Amen, Amen, Amen and Amen!! Praise God for your healing. I could have written what your words...I am blessed to read them! :)